As an international relationship specialist, Nicola Beer has worked with countless women through the low points in their life. Whether it is marriage troubles, a break-up, or something else that shakes their world, one thing she knows for sure is that some women bounce back quickly and some don’t. Through her work, she found that those that are able to pick themselves up and recover from hardship quickly share several traits that make them unstoppable. Through her expertise, she has put together the 10 traits of the resilient and unstoppable woman
An unstoppable woman understands the power of taking responsibility for every part of their life. This includes accepting that their response or reaction is just as important as the event itself. They don’t play the victim, instead they focus on what they can control and move forward. “When you think everything is someone else’s fault, you will suffer a lot. When you realize that everything springs only from yourself, you will learn both peace and joy,” said the 14th-Dalai Lama.
MADE PEACE WITH THE PAST
Everyone has baggage, but some carry it heavier than the others. Being unstoppable requires us to let go of and come to terms with the emotional turmoil of the past. If we don’t, it can weigh us down.
USE CHALLENGES TO LEARN AND GROW
We have all been through difficult experiences, some are more painful and stressful than others. Unstoppable women grow from these experiences, as they search for the lessons and use them to propel themselves forward.
LET GO OF PERFECTIONISM AND NEED FOR CONTROL
Unstoppable women like things to be perfect and to go according to their plans. However, when things don’t go as planned they focus on what they can control instead of beating themselves up, panicking or shouting. They are able to embrace change and react without adding more tension or drama.
LIFE LONG LEARNERS
They love to learn and strive to continuously develop their personal, relationship and business skills. They are willing to invest the time, energy and finances in order to learn and gain the knowledge they need to succeed. As Allan Rufus, author of The Master’s Sacred Knowledge, once said, “Life is like a sandwich! Birth as one slice, and death as the other. What you put in-between the slices is up to you. Is your sandwich tasty or sour?”
The law of nature shows us that what doesn’t bend, will break. Think of a fruitbearing tree, the branches that hold the ripest, richest, best tasting fruit are flexible and bend. The same goes for achieving happiness and success in life, we need to be flexible in our thinking, behaviour and expectations.
HAVE AND KEEP FAITH
Faith in life, in yourself and in the future is essential to keep going when things fall apart. It doesn’t matter what your spiritual or religious beliefs are, having faith and some kind of hope is key. In the words of Leo Tolstoy, “Faith is the force of life.”
CREATE POWERFUL VISIONS AND ACT ON THEM
When we have a vision of what we want, we are far more likely to succeed. Now that may seem obvious, but how many times do you sit down and think about or write out your vision? Many of us (myself included) get caught up in the day to day and fail to do this simple yet profound exercise. There are also those who are full of ideas and visions but do nothing. Unstoppable women are not afraid to act. They have clearly defined goals and follow a plan to get there.
TAKE CARE OF THEMSELVES
Unstoppable women know the importance of taking care of themselves. They keep their life balanced, they take time to exercise and eat well and as a result they perform and look well too. They also know how and when to say ‘no’ to protect themselves from burnout. Unstoppable women value themselves and set boundaries.
“When the going gets tough, the tough get going” is such a great saying. This trait sets unstoppable women apart from the rest. It’s about working through sick days, challenges and road-blocks and going for it, no matter what.